The planner in me should be eating this up, but it’s actually kind of weird to know that, one way or another, our baby will be coming tomorrow. I’m trying to wrap my head around all my feelings today. It’s been such a crazy roller coaster ride to get to where we are today.
I’m feeling extra grateful to D for how supportive he’s been over the past year. And to Littleman, for how resilient he’s been, even with a mommy who has been less-than-able for a lot of the time.
When we found out we were expecting baby number two early last January, we were both so excited. Trying to get pregnant was not fun or easy for me, so it was nice to put that behind us. Then, one year ago tomorrow (March 5) we had our NT scan. Our baby looked perfect! For us, that milestone is the one that really allowed us to believe we were pregnant and that is when we started to share the news with our family and friends. We were so excited for Littleman to help us tell everyone and we started with my parents.
Two weeks later, our world came crashing down when we lost our little one to a missed miscarriage and had to figure out how to move forward. We were devastated. D and I grieved differently – as I imagine many couples do – but he was amazingly patient as I suffered through the emotions and pain that came along with the experience.
When we got pregnant again a couple of months later, neither of us were willing to believe or accept it fully for a long time. I was so glad that I had this space to write in and share my feelings because we certainly weren’t telling anyone we knew that we were expecting again.
After some ups and downs during early pregnancy, things seemed to settle down and the pregnancy chugged along amazingly well. OK, I felt like shit most of the time but the baby was good, which was all that mattered. And D continued to support my shitty-feeling self every step of the way.
So now, after being pregnant for 12 of the last 14 months, here we are. The day before the birth. I realized today that I’ve been holding my breath for most of those 14 months. Even when things are seemingly going just fine, there’s a constant layer of worry that clouds my mind. I am so ready for this baby to arrive safely.
To D: I love you so much. You are an incredible husband and the best father in the world. Our boys and I are so lucky to have you to take care of us. I know I haven’t been the easiest person to be around this past year but I promise to work hard to be the best wife and mother I can be. I can’t wait to see what the future holds for our little family.
To Littleman: you are such a special boy. You are smart, funny and mature. You are caring and empathetic. And, you will be a wonderful big brother. I can’t wait to be able to get down on the floor with you again, to drive fire trucks, race cars and fly airplanes. You have been such a patient boy while mommy has struggled physically. I love you so much, sweet one.
To Baby Bo: we have been waiting for you for so long! We love you and cannot wait to meet you tomorrow. Stay strong, little boy. We will see you soon!